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[Seksme]

Relationships typically get harder after you have kids, so it’s increasingly important to prioritize your spouse and your relationship after you become a parent. The good news is, your love life can be just as great as it was before this exhausting but exciting experience.

If you’ve figured parenthood all out or have a tip or two that can help our community members, we’re eager to know what makes your relationship a success!

[RedG]

I heartily recommend that you establish a consistent bedtime for the kids that gives you and your partner a few hours together every night. Simply carve out adults-only time every night. It’s not just good for the two of you – it’s good for your kids also. If they see that their parents are taking time for themselves, that they genuinely cherish each other and are affectionate with one another, that gives them a sense of stability.

[carolz]

My husband and I are trying to set aside some time every week to work through difficulties before they ruin our relationship. We both agree that our kids should not notice if we disagree on something or we’re just mad about the other momentarily. We usually sit down to check in and discuss things every Thursday when the kids are already in bed. When you’re exhausted, it can be very easy to just complain about your partner: what he/she is doing or not doing. This has an effect on your children of course and they will feel that something’s not right. But saying something like ‘We can talk about it on Thursday’ can actually help 2 ways: things that might have been inflammatory in the moment may just fade by the time you have your designated check-in, and then you will also both be more open to seeking resolutions rather than just spewing grievances.

[Doggone Girl]

This is great fun: Steamy Bucket List. We play this every now and then when our kids are with their grandparents. Can only recommend.

[Shopgirl]

By and large most of us, men and women alike, have far more patience, compassion, and forgiveness for our children than we do for our partners. When your baby cries for no apparent reason, you’ll want to do everything in your power to soothe her, but when our partners snap at us in the mildest way, we become irritated. If you can take the compassionate approach you have for your children and offer that to your partner, it will go a long way.

[G MAN]

As we’re new parents with my wife, we are feeling exhausted most of the time. Despite the fact that we’re always tired, we make sure that we support each other and take care of our relationship just as well as our son. We both love a shoulder and back massage but every now and then we spoil each other with a sensual massage with scented massage oils. It truly helps us to unwind and focus on each other instead of nappies and baby food – if only for a couple of hours. If you’re very tired, it will switch you off, but it can also turn you on…

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