INTRODUCTION

Bondage might seem eccentric to a lot of people, but with our beginner’s guide, this is about to change for you.

HOW DOES BONDAGE WORK?

Bondage is simply about movement restriction. “Tie and tease” sounds familiar? Well, a lot of people know this simple and yet exciting play technique, and have tried it as a way of spicing up their intimate play sessions.

You have to understand though that bondage games cannot work without trust. The partner who is restrained is vulnerable, and needs to know they are safe with their play partner. If absolute trust is absent, there should be no bondage play at all. These sessions should be viewed as mutually beneficial and fun. The active partner must go beyond their personal fantasies, and unselfishly consider the pleasure of the restrained partner.

WHY SHOULD I TRY BONDAGE?

What gives you an adrenaline rush? The erotic sensation that comes from being tied up, and taking all the pleasure during play sessions without having to give back to your partner at the same time? Play-struggling against restraints? The heightened sensations that come with being blindfolded and the heart-racing feeling of not knowing what you are going to get? Or the rush of power that comes with performing the bondage?

TIPS FOR BEGINNERS

As beginners, below are some really cool tips you can try to get started:

• use silk scarves and take turns to tie and tease each other
  
• use a very thin chain or paper streamers to tie up your partner so they could easily break out of it if they do not want to remain in the same position anymore
• try spicing up sex by kissing or massaging the other wearing a blindfold
  
• try furry cuffs. You will sure enjoy the soft feel they give you. Also, due to the fur inside, these cuffs prevent the wearer’s risk from chaffing and cutting off blood circulation to the wrists or ankles
  

SAFETY FIRST!

Safety issues are just as important as the excitement you will get from naughty games. You should only ever do something you feel safe with, and like we would always say: we never ever compromise on safety - and neither should you!

• Get to know your partner inside and out. Do not jump into bondage games with someone you hardly know.
  
• Look beyond the awesome first-impression looks and wait till you are sure they can be trusted.
• If you do not want to engage in any sexual practice, tell your partner a firm no. If they really care about you, they would not try to bully or coerce you into doing something you feel uncomfortable with.
  
• Set firm rules and limits. They should be clear and perfectly understood before the game starts.
  
• Always agree on a safeword before starting anything. If you do not know what to agree on as a safeword, try the popular ‘enough’. Once the restrained partner says the safeword, the active partner must stop immediately and make them feel at ease. (Find out more about safewords on our dedicated page.)
  
• The only thing you are allowed to tie around someone’s neck is a specifically made neck-collar. Anything lesser can be putting the partner at a risk of choking, tissue damage, or fatal strangulation. Gags require the same level of attention and care too.
  
• Never leave your tied-up partner alone. The active partner needs to make them very comfortable, ensure they have free airflow and blood circulation.
  
• Bondage in a remote place is very risky. In a situation where an accident occurs and the active partner gets injured while the passive partner is still tied up, getting urgent help might be impossible.
  
• If this is your first time at bondage play, avoid diving into the use of pro-league tools. Wait till you become expert enough to handle any play tool with complicated safety instructions.
  
• Don’t compromise on safe sex. Use a condom if you are to have penetrative sex.
  
• Avoid getting high on alcohol and drugs, so you can be in control of your senses. Intoxication might make you dangerously miscalculate safety risks.
  

WHAT TO DO NOW?

Now that you have learned the basics about beginner’s bondage, after you have also learned about using your new toys safely by visiting the Seksme items page, why not try out one of our Seksme Hands On Experience Scenarios for new sexy and fun ways of trying out your new set with your partner.