USING DIRTY TALK
Dirty talk is the opportunity to really push back all the boundaries. Being sweet and polite by nature and expressing your dirty side in bed by blurting out sexy rude things is a lot of fun and gives a spice to your sex life.
Dirty talk is a sex play involving sensual/sexual phrasing in order to drive your partner or even yourself wild through words and imagination and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Through dirty talk you can stimulate your partner’s major senses: hearing, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment. If done right and at the right time, dirty talk is one of the hottest things you can do for your lover!
DIRTY TALK CAN ENHANCE YOUR LOVE LIFE
HOW DIRTY TALK CAN HELP?
- Builds Attraction – It can make your partner feel loved and attractive.
- Enhanced Confidence – It boosts self-esteem as well as makes both of you turned on.
- Adds Spice to Your Sex Life – It definitely will improve your relationship, especially if you notice your love life has been particularly bland and uninteresting lately.
- Impress Your Partner – You can also charm those you would like to date, see more of, or just get to stay a little bit longer.
- Despite what you may have heard, both women and men love it. Although everyone is different, your partner’s gender has no bearing on what they do or do not consider attractive and sexy.
DIRTY TALK BOUNDARIES
When the subject of dirty talk comes up, the first thing to do is communicate your dirty talk boundaries. If there are words that you don’t like, you have to tell your sweetheart. Once you have agreed on what works and what doesn’t – have fun!
WHAT TO SAY
Soft-core dirty talk may include sweet nothings, and not-so-dirty phrases and words. It may be said just as a compliment. The soft-core version is a great way to start with dirty talk. In the beginning, it is best to stick with the words you already know work well, and gradually add new naughty words and phrases here and there during sex. For example, you may say:
“Gee… your outfit looks so sexy tonight.”
“I love the things you do to me!”
“Your body is so sexy. I’m so lucky to have you.”
“I always feel so good around you.”
“I need you right now.”
“I just can’t get enough of your legs.”
“You always know how to turn me on right away.”
“I get so turned on just thinking about the last time we made love.”
“Honey, you’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!”
Keep in mind: Just make your partner feel sexy and wanted. However, you have to be honest and base your compliments on reality.
WHAT TO SAY
This is often used as foreplay, and can be a bit more graphic. You may say something like:
“I want you so bad.”
“Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!”
“Your wish is my command!”
“You have great tits; I love playing with them.”
“You can have me any way you want, babe.”
“I love the things you do with your tongue.”
“I just want to be used by you tonight. Can I be your personal toy?”
“I want to tie you up later and have my way with you.”
Keep in mind: This may or may not be graphic at all. This depends on what you both prefer. Often, simple moaning and groaning are enough.
WHAT TO SAY
Hard-core dirty talk may involve swear words and slang words. Many lovers find it extremely hot if you use them, especially if you don’t usually swear. Although this can seem weird when out of context, it can be very attractive when done in the heat of the moment! For example, you may say:
“Fuck me harder, baby!”
“I’m going to fuck you until you beg for mercy.”
“Your pussy/cock tastes so good!”
“I love licking you all over.”
“Use me like your fuck-toy!”
“What a sweet sexy ass!”
“Oh, baby, that was the best fuck I’ve ever had. Thank you for that.”
“I want to rub my pussy all over your face.”
“Spray your juice all over my tits.”
“Put your big fat cock inside my pussy and fuck my brain out. Right now!”
“Oh, baby, I love it when you suck my nipples/neck/cock.”
“This is how a real man fucks!”
Keep in mind: Feel free to experiment with all kinds of different phrases while with your partner, both inside and outside of the bed. Chances are they will love it!
You’ll find that it’s easiest and most natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone. This way there is far less pressure.
Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your partner in private, you can start experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your partner’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in their ear while you’re both in a crowded bar!
Almost everyone adores when you talk dirty to them, but it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty talk phrases they like most. Some prefer it when you are subtle and even polite with your dirty talk, while others prefer it when you are super explicit.
So your partner might love it when you say something simple and subtle like,
“I can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at shopping. Or they may prefer it when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.”
Dirty talk is not disrespect - this is a sex play Behind closed doors, almost all women enjoy being treated like a little whore every now and then. But everyone should separate a sex play from reality. So if she is a “bitch” in the sack, that doesn’t mean that she would like to be called a “bitch” outside of the bedroom.
Of course, you want to talk dirty in a way that turns your partner on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having fun too! If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your partner or if you don’t like the idea of sending them dirty text messages, don’t feel that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you.
Our advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether or not it’s for you. It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start talking dirty to your partner or when you try something new. As you do it more and more, and see your partner’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow.
There's no magic formula that works every time or in every situation. So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the reaction you’re looking for, don't feel like you have to keep doing it. Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll slowly build up an encyclopaedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will keep your partner obsessed.
Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more explicit, “out there” kind, while others find that very subtle dirty talk works best. Some excel at phone sex, while others get better results from dirty text messages.
The key is focusing on what works best for you. It should come naturally from you Don't say words that make you feel uncomfortable. Try to be yourself and say the words that come out naturally. Just say what comes to mind. In order to sound spontaneous and really sexy, you have to wait for the right moment, otherwise prepare for some laughter and giggles. Don’t worry if it sounds funny though: after all, the point of dirty talk is to have fun.
When beginning with dirty talk, there are many things you can do wrong. Here is a list of the most common mistakes you should avoid:
- Speaking only about yourself. Instead, try to focus on telling your partner what you want to do to them.
- Nervous stuttering. You need to sound dominant and strong to make it work.
- Not listening to your partner. You always have to listen to what they say and how they react to your words.
Being too vague. You need to use details but still leave some place for their imagination. If you are the object of dirty talk, always keep in mind that your partner is trying to flatter you, not to make you feel uncomfortable or strange.
Now that you learnt alll there is to know about dirty talk, check out an extensive collection of phrases you could try during your sex play.
"I wore this for you."
"I want to feel your hands all over my body."
"Hearing you moan with pleasure turns me on so much."
"Make me cum with your tongue."
"I love seeing your bulge in your pants."
"I feel so small in your arms."
"There’s a few things that I really like about you; I hope you never stop doing them."
"Just feeling your eyes on me makes me so wet."
"Sex with you is like a drug, and I think I may be addicted."
"I want you to undress and wait for me in the bedroom."
"I don’t normally do this, but you bring out this craziness in me."
"I don’t want to be forward, but I need you now."
"I absolutely adore feeling you on top of me."
"I want to feel you kiss my entire body."
"I don’t think I could ever get bored of having sex with you."
"I always get what I want."
"Tell me all the dirty little things you do when you masturbate, you naughty boy/girl. Tell me everything, baby. Tell me how you play with yourself."
"Kiss me there… Lick every inch of me."
"Touch yourself and let me watch you."
"Do you want more? Take it! It drives me crazy when you look at me that way."
"Baby don’t stop! Oh my god, I love it when you do that!"
"You can have me any way you want…"
"Get over here, big boy, and show me who’s the boss!"
"Get on your hands and knees, sweetheart… and wait like a good girl."
"Spread your legs wide for me, sweet darling. Your body is mine tonight."
"You like it when I spread my legs and take you in?"
"I can’t believe what you’re doing! Please do not stop!"
"I love pleasing you and the sounds of your pleasure drive me crazy."
"Babe, you have to follow all my rules tonight."
"It’s a pity we’re not in bed right now because all I can think of is feeling your body on mine."
"No stops this time. Let’s see how many times I can make you come."
"I want you. I want to make love with you. I want to enjoy sex with you. I want to fuck you."
If we weren’t at this party and these people weren’t around, I would jump you right now! What would you say if I asked you to go down on me right now?
It might sound greedy, but I need your cock so bad right now.
I love holding your cock and feeling it get hard in my hands.
I’m going to do you right now, honey. Your pussy… or your ass…?
Do you like it when I touch myself here?
I’m going to drain your balls tonight!
I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off and fuck you.
I need to feel you inside me.
I keep thinking about the first time you fucked me; it makes me so insanely horny.
Nobody has ever fucked me like you do.
Even when you’re in a bad mood, I want to fuck you.
When we get home, I’m going to make you orgasm so hard.
Knowing that you can completely overpower me makes me so crazy horny.
What would you prefer I wear tonight, a thong or panties or nothing at all?
Would you discipline me if I was acting bratty? I’m going to break you tonight.
If these people weren’t here, I would be on my knees with your cock in my mouth.
I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me.
I’ve got a sexy surprise for you later… x (great when sent as a text message/IM/email) I wish we could just stay in bed and have sex all day long.
I love it when you wear tight clothes.
I’m going to need your services tonight, boy.
Guess what color my panties are?
We need to meet after work; this horniness is killing me.
I just want to wrap my pussy around your cock.
I want to feel your cock twitch inside me.
You look so fucking hot in the morning.
I wore these panties just for you.
I feel so horny and helpless when you dominate me.
Tonight is going to be a lot of fun. (Perfect as a message) If you play your cards right, you’ve got some pleasure/fun coming your way.
Stop looking at me like that, it’s making me wet.
Tonight we’re going to do what I want to do.
But don’t worry, it’s going to be a lot of fun!
I’m going to make you scream and shout tonight!
I’m your slave for the night. Tell me what you want.
I love how big your cock gets when I talk to you like this.
I came so hard last night thinking about you. It’s a pity my hands aren’t nearly as good as the real thing.
I had an exciting dream about you last night and have been replaying it in my head all day.
I’m so horny thinking about seeing you later.
I miss having your arms around me x I was thinking about you in the shower this morning!
I miss you dominating me.
There is something that makes me crazy wet when you are standing right over me when we’re kissing.
I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me… I miss this so much.
Sometimes my legs get weak when you kiss me. Just thinking about you makes me so damn wet! I miss your cock.
You’re going to pass out with pleasure.
I want to fall asleep with you inside me.
If we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would it be?
I masturbated about you last night.
Still feeling sore after last night.
I think you’re the only guy who can make me angry and horny at the same time.
Do you like the fact that I think about you when I’m masturbating.
The hottest thing about last night was feeling you shoot your load inside me.
I can still taste you.
I want to be your lady on the streets and your freak between the sheets.
I never thought I would meet someone that gets me so goddamn aroused.
I’m supposed to be working, but all I can think about is you dominating me.
Hearing you groan, moan and shout when you cum is so fucking satisfying.
Feeling your seed drip down my leg was the perfect reminder of this morning.
I dreamt about you last night and woke up dripping wet, which was nice.
Making you hard is my number one priority.
I want you to tie me up and have your way with me.
I don’t like sitting here in work when I could be at home doing filthy things to you.
Why can’t I just be lying beside you in bed instead of studying/working…
I have a surprise for you later tonight… I think you’re going to like it!
If I could only wear three items of clothing or less tonight, what would you choose for me?
I just laid in bed for the last hour thinking about you… guess what I was doing!
I just found this cool sex site on the internet… it gave me some awesome ideas for later!
When’s the last time you jerked it?
I just thought of a new position that I desperately want to try with you.
I found some sex positions I think we should try, what do you say?
What would you enjoy more: a quick hand job or a long drawn out sex session tonight?
I miss feeling your hands all over me, ripping my clothes off and having your way with me.
(This one is good for long distance relationships).
I think it’s time we tried anal.
Tonight you have a choice, anal or oral? Choose wisely.
Tonight I want to watch you jerk yourself off.
I keep fantasizing about you grabbing me and having your way with me.
I’ve got something I want to try on you later….I think you’ll like it!
If you can guess what color my bra is, I’ll give you a blow job tonight!
I’m going to drain every last drop of cum out of you later.
Is it weird that I just want you to use me tonight?
I’m going to mark you as mine tonight.
You’re going to scream my name tonight.
Tonight is going to be about pleasure and pain.
I want to hear you breathing in my ear when I make you cum.
Tonight you’re not allowed to cum until I say so.
You’re not going to be able to move after I’m finished with you tonight.
Your cock is going to pulse with complete pleasure tonight.
There is something so damn hot when you pin me down by my wrists.
Tonight is all about making you cry with pleasure.
Tonight I am going to bite you, slap you, choke you and make you my personal sex slave.
I’ve been a bad girl and deserve a spanking.
I want you to handcuff me and fuck me any way you’d like.
I wish we could just fuck forever.
The plan for tonight is to be your personal sex doll.
Use me as your toy all night long.
Okay, babe, you can have any hole you want.
Oh, baby, that was the best fuck I’ve ever had. Thank you for that.
I just want to be your little fuck doll.
I love how your dick feels in my hands!
I’m so fuckin’ wet, just let me suck your sweet lollipop…
Don’t ever stop fucking me.
I want to feel your cock in my mouth.
I love it when you fuck me like a slut.
Bend me over and spank me, I’ve been a really naughty girl.
Give me every last drop.
Suck my breasts.
Just grab my head and force me closer!
Slap my ass.
Take me right here.
Fuck me like you mean it!
You bring out this animal in me, I love it!
Tell me when you’re close.
What a sweet sexy ass!
I want to taste your cum.
Making you cum hard is my number one priority right now.
I love the way it sounds when you fuck me. Hear it?
Your cock belongs to me.
I don’t want to be able to walk tomorrow, so fuck me harder.
Fuck me. Right now!
I love when you’re rough with me.
Fuck me like your own me.
You’re going to make me cum.
I want you to scream my name when you cum.
Bite me and mark me as yours.
Make me your bitch.
I love your dick.
Fuck my cunt.
Fill me up.
I want your cum.
Grab my breasts and squeeze my nipples.
I’ve been really bad and need to be punished.
You’re not leaving here until I have your cum in my mouth.
Deeper! (then pull him deeper with your arms and legs) I want to hear you scream my name when you cum.
You like how I fuck you?
Pull my hair and slap me.
Dominate me like the slut I am!
Please fuck me harder.
Make me feel helpless.
Make me your bitch.
Cum for me.
Did you take a course on how to make me cum?
Give me that come, honey. I want it in my mouth. Come on, give it to me.
Where do you want to come?
I want it all over me. Cover me with it.
You’re my bitch. I adore how naughty you are. I love you.
Don’t you dare come until I say you can!
Do you like my juicy pussy/big dick? Tell me what you see. Describe it to me.
Maybe you should spank me – I’ve been very, very bad.
What a hot nasty girl you are! I will wash your mouth out with my cum if you talk dirty, naughty girl.
Cum for me baby, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you.
I could spend hours between your legs; teasing… sucking; sipping; tasting you.
Take your clothes off and get on your hands and knees. Right now!
I need your cock!
Fuck me hard.
Deeper, Deeper, DEEPER! – Say it like your are commanding him.
Just like that.
I love being your fuck slut.
Come over here and ride me hard!
This pussy is yours, whenever you want it.
I think I’m in love with your dick.
Holy shit, I’m cumming.
Make me your bitch!
I want to taste myself on your cock.
Fuck my cunt!
Make me cum baby.
I’m dripping wet.
I love sucking your cock. And I’m going to lick it clean.
I’m about to explode.
Faster! Deeper! Harder!
I want you to suck out all the juices you put in me with your mouth.
Shut the fuck up and take your clothes off.
I’ve never been fucked like this before.
You’re going to make me pass out with pleasure.
I just wanna be your sex slut.
Grab my hair and fuck me like a dog.
I want to feel your cum all over my face.
I want to feel you shoot your load in my mouth.
Lie back and shut up! I’m going to make you come until you can’t breathe.
I’m going to jerk you off until I get every last drop out of you.
Let’s spend the entire weekend together completely naked!
Fuck me, fuck me!
Pound me harder!
Tonight is all about me, so get down on your knees and put that tongue of yours to work.
Shut the fuck up! I’ll fuck you wherever I want, naughty little whore!
Pull my hair and treat me like an animal.
Put your cock inside my hole and fuck my brain out!
You little slut, I’m going to fuck you till you can’t walk! Ready?
Fill me up, boy, fuck my tight cunt! Make me scream with that big dick of yours!
Credits - We used the following sources to bring you all the naughtiness in this section:
Bad Girl's Bible - http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases; Portable Life Skills Daily Wisdom Guide - https://eagleman6788.wordpress.com/2012/03/29/how-to-talk-dirty-50-examples-that-will-make-you-blush/; The Stallion Style - http://thestallionstyle.com/the-advanced-guide-to-talking-dirty/
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